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I'm in my 20's. Sometimes I'm okay with that, sometimes I'm not. I have 2 daughters. I have a wonderful man! I'm from the East Coast. Oklahoma has tornados, NOT beaches!! I write. I read. I work hard. I'm addicted to blogger & facebook. Hmm weird! I hate drama, although I am very dramatic. I love pink, shoes, Celine Dion, and Coach purses. This is new to me, because I have always been a tomboy!

5.22.2007

Relay 4 Life: June 1st 2007

Arthur M. Spurgin 2/10/34 - 11/13/99


In November of 99, my Grandpere', Arthur M. Spurgin, passed away of Colon Cancer, in Jacksonville Beach, Fla. I was shocked, because I wasn't even aware that he had cancer, and I knew very little about this malignant beast. I remember his deep voice, the booming sound of it that lulled me to sleep on summer nights, and how hearing his voice on the answering machine for so many years after his death was haunting and comforting at the same time. I remember he loved Golf and peanut butter and baloney sandwiches. I was not close to him by any means, but I still do miss the sound of his voice, and I can't bring myself to eat any of his signature sandwiches.
Katie Mae Caldwell 6/29/29 - 10/23/02

In October of 2002, my beloved Momo, Katie Mae Caldwell, passed away due to Colon Cancer in Rossville, Ga. Momo was my heart. She was the safe haven that I had, she was the very air that I breathed, and when she died, a piece of me was lost, I feared, forever. I could not take her pictures out of their hiding places, because to look at them was sheer torture. Promises I made to her, that I had no business making because I was too young to understand what a promise was, haunted me for the longest time. Only a few months ago, was I able to frame her photos and hang them on the wall. I look at them every time I am in the hallway, and every time I see them I have to smile because even though she's gone in the physical sense, she isn't really gone. Not in my heart.

These 2 very influential people in my life are why I agreed a year ago to volunteer my voice to sing at the Relay 4 Life on June 1st, 2007. The event will be held Friday, June 1st at the Union Track Field 66th & Memorial. The Opening Ceremony & Survivor Lap begin at 7pm. [However, the Survivor festivities (reception dinner) begin at 5:30pm.]

The event is all night long and ends at 7am. The time of the event is significant of a cancer patients life ... going from time of diagnosis (darkness) through treatment and into remission (the light).

Relay For Life® is a fun-filled overnight event designed to bring together those who have been touched by cancer in our community. At the event, we celebrate survivorship and raise money to help the American Cancer Society in its mission to save lives, help those who have been touched by cancer, and empower individuals to fight back. During the event, teams of people gather at schools, fairgrounds, or parks and take turns walking or running laps. Each team tries to keep at least one team member on the track at all times.
But, Relay is much more than a walk around a track. It is a time to remember those lost to cancer and celebrate those who have survived. It is a night for people who have shared the same experience to comfort and console one another. During this event, we honor survivors during the Survivors Lap and we remember those we lost to cancer during the Luminaria Ceremony. We also celebrate life, friendship, and a chance to work together toward a cancer-free future.

Most importantly, Relay gives you the power to help in the fight against cancer. By joining together as volunteers and donors, our efforts help the American Cancer Society strive toward a future where cancer doesn't take the lives of our friends and family.

Please bring your friends & family out to help & show support for Relay 4 Life!

5.21.2007

Outrageous!

This woman is a monster. Plain & Simple: MONSTER!!!
According to the news, this woman, Vicki Leigh Chiles, caused a 2 year old boy to die in her home. Do you know WHAT this woman did? Be prepared, because it's simply horrible.
Vicki Leigh Chiles is [was] a Home Child Care Provider here in mid-town Tulsa. A 2 year old little boy would not be quiet during nap time, so Ms. Chiles proceeded to bind him with duct tape around his tiny hands and his MOUTH. She went to wake the children up or check on them or something like that and had to call authorities because the child was unresponsive. Of course, she removed the tape BEFORE calling the ambulance. The child later died in the hospital.
Sickening. It's outright SICKENING to me that a person who is supposed to take CARE of children can treat them in such a disgusting fashion!!! Being a provider myself, I know how hard it is and taxing it is to take care of small ones, but if you don't have the time or patience for it, don't DO IT! Simple as that.
My heart aches for the boy's family, who live in Sperry, OK. I can just imagine, knowing what I know of Child Cares in general. The mother drops off her precious son, he's probably crying because he doesn't want his mommy to leave. Maybe he's not crying, but maybe he just hugs her extra long this day? Maybe. She kisses him and tells him goodbye, reassures him that she'll be back to pick him up after nap. Ms. Chiles probably told the mother, "He'll be just fine, we'll have lots of fun today!" and the mother leaves and goes to work, only to be contacted by authorities later that day that her son is unresponsive and being taken to the hospital. Even if the scenario at drop-off wasn't exactly like the one written here, it is similar.
How someone who is supposed to be caring for a child can do something so awful is beyond me.
According to Inmate Details, Ms. Chiles has these Offenses against her:
  • INJURY TO MINOR CHILD 5/29/2007 Hold W/O Bond $0.00
  • ABUSE OF A MINOR CHILD 5/29/2007 Surety Bond $50,000.00
  • NO PROOF LIABILITY INSURANCE 5/22/2007 Cash Only $285.00
  • SUSPENDED OR REVOKED DL 5/22/2007 Cash Only $285.00
  • MURDER 1ST DEGREE 5/29/2007 Hold W/O Bond $0.00
Apparently, this woman has had 29 DHS visits since 2002. DHS does 3 visits per year that are a MUST, so this many in 5 years is WAY more than usual. There is also a history of alleged abuse, and history of DHS Investigations on this woman. Tell me, how does a woman with this kind of history, still able to keep and maintain a license to care for children in her home? HOW DOES THIS SLIP THROUGH THE CRACKS??? Do we have to have dead babies, and injured children before we STOP THIS???

Please be careful whom you allow your children to be with. Your child's most important years are the first few and if you don't have a good home/center for your child to flourish and grow in, this is a dis-service to your child! Please make sure you get references, you drop in every once in a while at different times, just to see what goes on when you aren't there. Stand at the door and listen before you knock or walk in. Be so very very observant of the home/center that your child spends the bulk of his/her day in. Check with DHS, check with neighbors, whatever you have to do to make sure that your child is safe...and loved. The child care provider is with your child even more than you are during your work week. Your child should be comfortable and just as happy about being with that person as you should be.
Here are some links/videos related to this story from the first report to the newest report:

5.18.2007

Relay 4 Life: June 1st.


2007
The American Cancer Society
Relay For Life of Tulsa

Because of YOU lives are saved & lives are changed … everyday!
SURVIVOR UPDATE
MESSAGE FROM THE SURVIVOR CHAIR
Relay is just around the corner - 15 more days!

If you are not part of a team, I would like to extend an invitation to you as well to come out and see what Relay For Life is all about - it is not just for Survivors, but also their caregivers and their supporters. Please feel free to forward this information on to others. We are still looking for Survivors to honor at our Survivor Reception, Survivor Lap and Luminaria event on June 1st. We want to be sure each patient and survivor in the Tulsa Community is honored at this event. We cannot do this without your efforts of extending an invitation to all the cancer patients and survivors you may know. Don’t forget each Relay For Life Team has a challenge to have at least a minimum of one Survivor/Patient on their team. As a team captain, if you recruit a survivor, please get them registered as a Survivor. Our night is filled with all kinds of fun and excitement and there will not be a lack of activities going on throughout the night. We will honor all Survivors and their caregivers with a Reception Dinner catered by Rib Crib at 5:30 pm. During this event we will have a guest speaker. Dr. Edgar Staren, MD, PhD, MBA – Chief Medical Officer and Surgical Oncologist from CTCA (Cancer Treatment Centers of America) who is a survivor himself. We will have cake provided and served by NEONS (North East Oklahoma Oncology Nursing Society). We will have a special gift for the survivors. Shortly after dinner at 7:00pm will be the Survivor opening lap. Carrie Netherton from FOX23 will be our hosting MC and will be reading the names of all Survivors. Then we will have a special guest singer, Joy Cochran. This year our Survivors will have a banner to carry during the opening lap. We ask that all survivor caregivers be present to assist in a special part of this opening lap. I encourage each of you to invite your friends, families, co-workers, in-laws and out-laws, and acquaintances to come see what Relay For Life is all about and not miss the experience. As our Committee Chair, Stacy Mendenhall stated in our May Newsletter, "Just knowing you are part of something so great is a feeling that can’t be described." Thank you for all your efforts for recognizing our Heroes of Hope! I look forward to seeing each and every one of you at Relay on Friday, June 1st!

Angela Borrell
2007 Relay For Life of Tulsa Survivor Chair

2007
Relay For Life of Tulsa
Union High School
Track Field
66th & Mingo Rd

5.17.2007

First things First.

I am not happy. Do you want to know WHY I am not happy? I am not happy because FINALE'S are supposed to bring you closure. They are supposed to be the ENDING of everything that has happened since a PREMIERE. It's supposed to be the little note in the card under the ribbon around a perfectly wrapped gift. And that gift is an ENDING. It's closure, it's something you want.

Apparently, the writers for the hit TV series Grey's Anatomy, didn't know this when they wrote out and filmed the last episode that broke over a million hearts and pissed off many a home-maker who had their hopes on Derek & Meredith. Who had their hopes on Burke & Christina. And even for those weird people who had their hopes up for George & Izzy. [Um yuck]. Tonight's Grey's...was not that gift. There was no ending. There was no closure. And it sure as hell wasn't anything that I wanted.
I wanted Meredith to throw her arms around Derek. Obviously, she didn't. Maybe they'd have no more plots to play through. But throwing her sister in there to flirt with Derek at the bar...that was just WRONG. [Last week, when I saw her, I turned to Garland and said, OMG that's Meredith's sister! He said, How do you know? I said, It's the same girl that turned Meredith's father around and led him out of the hospital after he told Meredith she wasn't welcome at Susan's funeral.] So since I have DVR...[Will never be able to live without it now!] I rewound that little sucker and showed him. So I was not in the least bit suprised to have her tell George at the end her name was Lexi Grey. Great another Grey with a mommy/daddy complex and falling for Derek, the breaker of hearts.
Ahh...George. I can't believe he failed. Are you kidding me? I blame this all on Izzy. If she'd quit following him around like some psychotic babbling idiot, maybe he could have thought straight enough to pass! And he was worried about Meredith! The whole time! How could he have concentrated? Izzy needs to get a LIFE. First it was Denny now it's George? What the hell? I like Izzy, but I like Callie, too, and I think while Callie and George don't make the cutest, or even the most interesting couple on the show, I like them together. I do NOT like George & Izzy together. NO.

Izzy is sad. Pathetic, really. She's graduated from incessantly saying "I'm Fine" to "I love you" in one season. I mean hell, was the George sex THAT good? Please. She was psychotically in love with Denny too, and they'd never even had sex, even though they had enough flirting going on there. I bet next, Izzy's going to try to hone in on Derek. Or Burke. Who knows? She should spend more time focusing on her job at hand, than focusing on someone else's husband.

Burke & Christina. What the hell was that? They build up for something spectacular and beautiful and great and totally wonderful and then they just shoot it down. It wasn't even like a feather falling from the sky, floating, beautiful, soft, carried by the wind to its final resting place. It was more like a rock being dropped from the top of the Empire State Building and shattering into a million pieces with a loud sonic boom. I loved the scene at the very end where Christina hyperventilated in her apartment and Meredith had to cut the wedding dress off of her. It was raw, emotional, left no question. In a way, Christina could have shut her mouth a little bit more. She could have not been such a bitch sometimes. She could have done a lot of things differently, but she didn't. And now the ending scene is of her bawling, clutching "Mama's" necklace, wrapped up in Meredith's arms.

So Addison makes some sense to Karev. He runs after Ava/Rebecca. She'd given him a plea to give her a reason to STAY and he just didn't DO IT! Why? What!? She basically TOLD HIM to give her a reason and he never did it. So Addison had to knock some DUH into the idiot who rushes back to the hospital to find...Ava/Rebecca was already gone. Discharged. Sent home. With her husband. [Who, btw, was played by one of the London brothers. Yummy.] Stupid Karev. He always makes late decisions. Sheez

McSteamy was highly pissed off that he didn't get Chief resident position. I don't even remember if they said anything about him or where he was going or doing. I know he wasn't happy.

Chief found a new love for his wife. They lost their baby. 52 and pregnant isn't really that doable anyway, but it was still sad.

So the million dollar question is: What's going to happen now?
  • Will Karev find Ava/Rebecca? Will he even continue to look?
  • Will Addison go back to LA? [There will be a new show starring her next year.]
  • Will McSteamy follow her?
  • Will Chief & his wife finally be a married couple who loves and cherishes each other?
  • Will Meredith & Derek be together or will Derek run after her sister?
  • Will Burke & Christina get married, or is this definitely over?
  • Will George & Callie work out and have a family?
  • Will Izzy try to wreck George's life, in order to have her perfect life?
  • Will Nazi be ok with Callie being Chief Resident?
  • Will the new interns have the main roles next season?
These questions SHOULD have been answered TONIGHT. However, they were not.
And that, my friends, is why I AM NOT HAPPY!

5.16.2007

Update on Olivia.

Today we went to activate Olivia's 2nd implant. There's a lot of technology involved, and a lot of people don't fully understand even when I try to explain that in her "old" ear, she is 4 years old, and in her "new" ear she is 0 years old. Even though she is 5. Yeah, work that out on your own if you care. LOL

So Dr. Wolfe turned her new one on, and let's just say Olivia is NOT a happy camper. It's not as loud as she wants it, and she doesn't understand the concept of time. Right now she doesn't understand that wearing it alone will help her learn how to use it better. She certainly doesn't understand that it will come IN TIME.

Remember my blog "Quick Fixes"? Check it out here. That will probably explain it a lot more without typing another novel that will basically say the same thing.

Olivia may wear both processors to school and during my working hours, but after work and school, during therapy, and on calm nights and weekends, she must wear only the new processor in order to learn how to use it and speak and respond and listen with it.

She's doing great. I have some pics. I'll upload them soon. Have a great day!!!!