Of all the species that cohabitate in the world, humans by far are the most inhumane. Animals kill and eat their young and each other...not out of hatred, but because that is their life cycle. Humans kill each other for hatred, revenge, anger, fear, and many other reasons. And mothers get slaps on the hand because they were suffering from post partum depression. We live in a world of excuses.
We are the most inhumane because we take the one gift that was given especially to US and we defile it with our actions.
♥LOVE♥
We are given this gift of love to share. To experience. To enjoy. Instead we use it to hurt. To guilt. To destroy. We live our entire lives hoping for love. Once we get it, we use it to hurt.
Why do we do that? Are we so self absorbed that we cannot for one moment step back to think of the reasons behind our actions? It can't possibly be OUR own fault?
Most of the reasons a person cannot love or falls easily in and out of love is because we had a lack of it in ourselves or for ourselves. How do we clear that hurdle? How to we break the habit?
Love comes in many different forms:
Friendship.
Lovers.
Parent-Child.
Sex.
Lets address Friendship. I know I blog about friendship a lot. Friends mean a lot to me. The friendship kind of love is the love that you have for one another because you have shared many things throughout the tenure of the relationship. You aren't (hopefully) sleeping with your friend, so there are healthier yet fewer boundaries. You aren't worried about impressing your friends because you know that they love and accept you for who you are. I don't have many friends that I actually hang out with. I have come to realize I'm much too needy for my own good. So I've stopped bitching about not having any friends that actually call me on a daily basis or come and visit. It will happen when it happens and if it doesn't, I have my kids and my boyfriend. Plus, it's so hard to find a damn sitter!
Now lets address Lovers. This is a separate kind of love. Love that normally only 2 people would share in a healthy relationship. A relationship set in per se, "the perfect world." They are attracted. They have trust. They have harmony. They have the unbounding love for one another that drives each other to the brink and eventually want to spend the rest of their lives together. (*I.E.: getting married, having kids, meeting the parents.) This kind of love expresses itself through emotions and actions (of course) and sets the foundation of the "rest of your lives." This love is accepting, understanding, respectful, trustworthy, and a dozen of other words we could use to describe it. But both have to be involved. Both have to be on the same page. Even if one is there, if the other is not...that isn't healthy for either person.
Lets discuss Parent-Child. This is of course, a type of unconditional love. A child loves its parents because its parents provide for him, kiss his boo-boos, clean his room, and do his laundry for him...sometimes up to college years. You bring home an A, your parents love you, you bring home a D, they might be mad, but they still love you.
Now, Sex. It is a common misconception, especially among the female gender that SEX=LOVE. This is NOT SO. If you want to know a little bit of facts, you can always google this subject too. A man has testosterone, the woman estrogen and progesteren. When a woman and a man have sex, a woman releases this neat little curse of a hormone that creates a bond with the person she is with. Testosterone obliterates this because of ...well...it's testosterone. SO there you go. MEN are ruled by their lower brains and women by their damnable hormones...WOW GO FIGURE!
All in all, love in all different angles, is still a form of the same love. It's trust, honesty, compassion, unconditional, respect. (except for you know....the whole SEX thing.) Some people don't know how to show it, some people don't even know what it is. Some people cling to it. Some people use it to hurt. We just have to take responsibility for our role in how our love will be shown to others.
Love is still love. Even when it hurts.
1 hollas!:
Hi joy! It's me, Peggi... Cindy's friend from Southpark!
Just wanted to say hi! :)
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